Hi, Dr. Lam,
Just wanted you to know how well I am progressing. I have numerous meetings next week and, just as you promised, the swelling is down and I look refreshed (It’s been 4 weeks since my surgery). I have a few sites that are still numb, and some small asymmetries that only I notice. But as you said, I see small changes daily and know this will continue for several months. Friends have commented on how I look happier (YES!), my new hairstyle (smile), weight loss, etc., all the kinds of comments I'd hoped I would hear.
And I've got to tell you--my eyes look wonderful. Natural, unpulled, but much more "emphasized." Wow, what a difference. I'm really pleased we talked about it and you made that suggestion. The jawline you sculpted for me has surpassed my best hopes. It makes my neck long and I'm wearing open neck blouses and choker necklaces again to great effect! Most people don't notice my neck directly (I feel like I wore turtlenecks for years), as my hair has always been long, but I certainly notice it! I think it’s a huge difference, but I was a dancer and I see necks differently than most people! Overall, it’s a subtle difference that friends and acquaintances see differently than I do. GREAT work!!!
I'm back into my weight lifting routine; backpacked for 4 days (with my neck band to wear at night in the tent!), went kayaking (but stayed dry), and have been hiking a lot.
You know, it was a near-heartstopping decision to undertake plastic surgery of my face. There are so many identity issues tied to appearance. But now my looks match my energy and my sense of self--greater congruence in my personal life. Your staff was absolutely wonderful—as was the 24-hour nurse who stayed with me post-surgery—in easing my fears and supporting me as I took this enormous step in my life.
Here's a conversation I had with some guys I work with. We were talking about our birthdays and the Chinese calendar. I said I was born in the year of the dog.
Guy 1: When?
Me: '46.
Guy 1: No, I mean what year?
Me: '46
Guy 2: No, sweetie, he means what year were you born in, NOT your age!
Me: 1946.
Guys 1-4: Long, long silence. Long long looks.
This conversation was more fun that I've had in a long time.
I've given your website URL to several people.
I will stop in this spring, when I’m passing through Dallas for some consulting work and we can see how everything is progressing—that will be about 9 months after the surgery.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
A friend in the Northwest
